Big goals give you butterflies in your stomach because they take you outside of your comfort zone.
Let's walk through an exercise to set those butterflies free. It will help you make a big decision and help you get past whatever may be holding you back.
It all has to do with breaking down your FEARS.
Fear is sneaky. It might feel like dread … laziness … or you might even write it off as procrastination.
No matter what you call it, it’s holding you back.
The good news is that you can break out of the cycle, One of the best things about this process (which is based on a practice created by author and podcaster Tim Ferris) is that it’s very logical.
It’s genius because it replaces fears and stumbling blocks with a solid decision-making process. It feels incredibly liberating!
Grab a notebook and a pen for this one … or open up a doc on your laptop.
At the top of the page, write “What if I ____?” and fill in the blank with the goal/decision you’re thinking about. It could be anything at all – from looking for a new job, to starting a new fitness routine, to moving to a new city, to pretty much anything!
Before you begin, I want you to write down how you will feel once you accomplish your big goal. Remember why it’s so important to you. Really envision yourself having already achieved this goal. Live it out in your head with your eyes closed.
Then, below it, make a chart with 3 columns.
Let’s say your big goal is landing a new job with more responsibilities.
In the first column, write down all the things that could go wrong.
A few possibilities: You are worried you’re not up for the task, that you’ll fail or won’t be good at it, the energy required would drain away time from family and friends, you might end up hating it, or you will miss all your current work buddies. Try to write down at least 10-15 items.
In the second column, list the steps you can take to cut the risk of those bad things happening.
For example, do you need to brush up on your skills? Can you set boundaries that allow you personal time? Or set up a recurring lunch with your former coworkers once you start your new job?
For each item in column one, come up with a few steps you can take to reduce the chances of those things happening.
Lastly, in the third column, outline what you can do to fix the situation if the “worst thing” happens. (Take a class or make regular lunch dates with your friends, etc.)
“The fears we don’t face becomes our limits.” – Robin Sharma
Once we shine a light on our fears, it’s kind of amazing how they are far less scary than we imagined.
The things that scare us are almost always so much worse in our heads than they are in real life.
It’s incredible how we can let a few “what-ifs” get in the way of our goals & dreams! But when you break it down, you realize all of the amazing possibilities awaiting you.
What do you have waiting for you?